Marriage, God's desire for those born of God

Marriage: God's desire for the mature born of God

The attitude of our hearts determines our altitude, according to Myles Monroe, and can lead us to experience peaks as well as valleys. Altitude is the way we see and feel, and is often influenced by the way others see and feel. James 4:6 presents pride as the state of our heart, which can lead us to see the people around us differently from what they really are, in John 3:25 John's disciples come to John with their remarks about Jesus, whom he had baptized, and how he was doing more baptisms than he was doing now, but John responds wisely, not allowing these words to change his attitude. Math 11:7-12 John had to introduce Jesus and had no glory to take from it, so Jesus declares that of all those born of women none is greater than John, yet in the kingdom of heaven he is the least, not that we are greater than John. Ephesians 5:5 presents us here with two kingdoms: the kingdom of heaven and the kingdom of God, the kingdom of heaven is smaller than the kingdom of God, the kingdom of heaven consists of the bridegroom who is Christ and the bride who is part of the Church of those who have been redeemed by Christ and who walk uprightly. The kingdom of God is therefore all those who once had faith in God, for example: Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph it began with the creation and introduction of man into the Garden of Eden and the kingdom of Christ began with Christ's resurrection from the dead and will end when the bride is taken from the earth.Things found in the kingdom of God are not necessarily in the kingdom of Christ, but what is part of the kingdom of Christ is in the kingdom of God. john himself makes the difference by saying that he is the friend of the bridegroom, for he is not part of that kingdom. The kingdom of heaven is the reign of all those who have confessed Jesus and who are to reign on earth because dominion has been handed over to Jesus.So we have two kingdoms for two types of message, so we must understand that we have authority from heaven to establish God's dominion on earth. Ephesians 5:31-32 PAUL speaks of marriage with reference to Christ and the Church. Matthew 19:12 a eunuch is someone who withholds marriage for a cause that may be the man himself, other men or for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The kingdom of heaven has requirements that if we can't meet it's good not to marry, marriage in the kingdom of heaven is a mystery that speaks of depths we need to know before committing ourselves otherwise it's going to create a lot of problems for us.The misunderstanding of marriage is the cause of the many difficulties couples face today: arguments, separations..... What we need to understand is that marriage has more requirements in the kingdom of Christ than in the kingdom of God, and if we can't meet them, it's better not to get married. Genesis 2:7-9 marriage is God's idea; it was never initiated by man.what we need to understand is that God is more interested in our marriage than we are Genesis 2:18,22-24.

• The purpose and reasons for marriage

The purpose of marriage: it's an institution of God and was established by Him to found society. That's why Satan's aim is to destroy marriages to bring about imbalance.The family is the nucleus of society, and if it is destroyed, so is society. The family is therefore there to provide a certain social balance: a man who loses his place in the family becomes a problem for the society to which he belongs.

The reasons for marriage : the only reason is to fulfill God's mission, so you can't say you want to get married if you don't know God's mission, vision or call for you: i will give him a helper to support him inthe purpose I have defined for him , so the man must not say that the woman will come to help him fulfill his vision as if she had none; Galatians3: 28 because all of us, both man and woman, have a mission to fulfill: we are all spirits and all members of the body of Christ capable of doing fully what the other can do. Having been created for a purpose, man should understand this so as not to dominate woman. Hence the only reason for marriage must be to support us in fulfilling our vision, just as we can choose to fulfill it alone like the apostle PAUL. It is two full people who come together to marry, not two people who seek to complement each other. This gives us the opportunity to have children who will not turn away from God, and to build a balanced family

• Secondary reasons for marriage

After understanding that we marry to fulfill God's purpose, project and mission, we need to understand that we marry secondarily for :

- Children: Psalm 68:6

-Companionship

- Preserve from fornication: this should enable us to understand that we can hold our bodies knowing the primary reason for marriage

Our commitment to marriage is determined by

1. Commitment to the thing of God (is he godly? and myself am I committed to the thing of God?)Luke16:10 marriage is a mystery determined by our commitment to the thing of the Father our devotion
2. Our attitude to God's plan (do we take care of God's house? His things?) Marriage is for mature Men speaking of spiritual maturity Exodus3:1-5
3. financial commitment to God's things (are we faithful in our offerings, our tithes?) otherwise we won't be able to manage the financial affairs of the house Isaiah21
4. Submission to authority: a woman or man who does not respect authority cannot respect his or her spouse
5. Provision of resources: both must be able to contribute to the couple's finances. If only one person is involved, this can become the object of blackmail
6. Financial dependence Proverb 31:15-16, do not become a burden on others
7. Parental dependence Genesis2:24 our parents must not influence our relationship
8. Marrying because of circumstances (health, age.....)
9. Doctrinal diversity heb13:7,17and Apo1:3 very important because we are together to accomplish a goal we must be able to have the same doctrine to move forward otherwise one will stifle the other
10. Place of residence: a man cannot marry if he does not live alone
11. Differences in age and education: don't marry someone who is too old or too young than you.we don't have the same interests it's a good idea for the woman to be younger than the man, or for them to be the same age the difference in education can lead to blackmail within the couple

Marriage is not built on love but on the word of God

I-) WHAT MARRIAGE IS NOT

• marriage is not an escape from suffering

An escape from suffering refers to considering marriage as security for oneself and one's family.

• marriage is not the search for companionship:
• marriage is not a means of social protection: the desire to bear one's spouse's name is not a reason to get married
• we don't get married to satisfy our sexual desires: it's not because we feel we're already a man or a woman that we want to get married.
• we don't marry for slavery: a man who wants to marry, for example, so that his wife can bring up his children, or a woman who wants to marry so that her husband can sweep the house.

Because we don't marry for all these reasons, and because we marry for only one primary reason, which is to fulfill God's mission for us, marriage is a SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIP.

THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

The first relationship of marriage is spiritual, so when we want to get married, the first place to inform is the house of God (local church or ministry). For :

-marriage is not primarily for the family: it's not the parents who should be informed first.

-we talk to our leader to benefit from grace, for real support (1Timothy3:15).

- it's in the Church that we manifest God's life so that we can better deploy it in society.

-the church has more spiritual acuity than any one man. the church has an input into our marriage. If we don't discipline ourselves, our marriage won't work, because as we said above, we don't build relationships on love, but on the Word of God.

• GOOD AND BAD RELATIONSHIPS WHILE COMMITTED

There are two types of commitment

• courting (different from flirting): this is when a young man decides to approach a young girl to propose marriage. You don't suddenly get up and go see your sister, because when the sister has already said "yes", it's considered that you're already committed.so before doing so, he or she should take a good moment to observe.

QUESTION 1: Do these criteria also apply to women?

THE PROPHET'S ANSWER: YES, it applies to brothers as well as sisters

QUESTION2: On the subject of choice, how can we recognize that such and such a person is the one we're going to marry?

ANSWER: see the implications of our commitment above

QUESTION3: when do we talk about commitment: before or after the courtship?

ANSWER3: The commitment is after the courtship, but the courtship is already another type of commitment, not to the other person, but on a personal level.

• the engagement period and marriage: Deuteronomy 22:16-18

A-) THE RIGHT FOUNDATIONS

Here we'll talk about what a man needs to do before approaching a woman to court her

1-) Examine his convictions and motivations.

You need to ask yourself a number of questions

• what are my convictions based on?
• is it because of financial problems?
• is it because of parental problems?
• is it because of sexual problems?
• what are the other person's convictions?

This will enable us to :

-reassure ourselves if the sister wants to get married

- see if there is an intellectual or spiritual incompatibility: you can't marry someone who is intellectually lower than you are

2) Put all the cards on the table

proverbs3:3 Proverbs14:15 ,1 Kings 9-4

Why lay the cards on the table?

a-)to see the health aspect (to be reassured if the fiancée or fiancé has health problems)

b-) on the aspect of his or her past (to reassure oneself if the fiancé or fiancée has had children or a history etc......)

c-) the good and bad aspects of his or her personality

d-) Pray for the person and for yourself

Or, if you like it, pray for the person before asking for her hand in marriage

4-) You need to make financial adjustments, i.e. have a blocked account for the wedding.

If you want to propose to a sister, make sure you've set aside some money first, so you don't have to rely on others after you've made your commitment.

B-) THE WRONG FOUNDATIONS

1-) fornication

1Cor6:15-20, 1Co5:1-5: don't get together with your sister and have sex together, or even caresses, which are a form of fornication

2-don't get involved in compromising situations (being alone at a late hour)

3-)don't start buying things together. Do not give money, gifts

4-)Don't lie to each other. Make the other person think you like something when you don't like it at all

5-)Stop all intimate relationships with the opposite sex: this means stopping all friendships with the opposite sex. It may happen that at some point you want to go back on your commitment, but this will only be possible if the above conditions are met:

A-) HOW TO BREAK A COMMITMENT

There are two biblical reasons for breaking a commitment:

*) when one of the partners is not a child of God 2corinthians 6:14-1

*) when you started a relationship before becoming a child of God 2corinthians 5:17

B-) DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

We need to understand them in order to live better together

MEN	WOMEN
-They are generally objective-oriented	-they are method-oriented
-they think big	-they are detail-oriented
-They are analytical (they reason a lot)	-they are intuitive (they feel things)
-They are physically stronger	-they are more resistant
-They are perceived as stronger emotionally	-they are emotionally weak
-they are not very talkative	-they are very talkative

EPHESIANS 5:23,35

GALATES 5:25

In the world we meet two categories of men: introverts and extroverts. Introverts are much more centered on their own person and extroverts are open to the outside world.When we become children of God, we must make sure that we put on the fruit of the Spirit and manifest it, learning to let go of who we are in order to reach out to others

C-) THE ROLES

MEN	WOMEN
-Gives direction to the household	-Accompanies and listens to direction
-Provides leadership	-follow leadership
-makes sure everyone grows in the word	-creates the environment for others to grow
-He is the final authority in the home	-organizes household activities in an orderly fashion
-He provides the necessary finances for the household	-she is the financial complement
-He demonstrates God's wisdom and power	-brings suggestions related to the will of CHRIST
-It teaches the details of GOD's word	-It watches over and teaches the other going in the same direction as the man

B-) FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT

LUC 12:13-21, PROVERBS 1:28-33

Financial management begins with the individual before moving on to the couple. The way I behave towards money determines my commitment to the couple

*The levels of financial management

-make sure that at the beginning of each year you have given your first fruits

-be faithful in your tithes and offerings

-you must sow and give your offerings. LUC 6-38

* DEFENSIVE ITEMS

-consumables: what you spend on a daily basis (rent, cab, clothing, food)

-investments: for God's work, and concerning these matters

-savings

SUMMARY TABLE OF EXPENSES

PERIODS (MONTHS)	Consumables	Capital expenditure		Savings
		Investments in working life	Investments in God's house
January
February
March
.................

Marriage: God's desire for the mature born of God

The attitude of our hearts determines our altitude, according to Myles Monroe, and can lead us to experience peaks as well as valleys. Altitude is the way we see and feel, and is often influenced by the way others see and feel. James 4:6 presents pride as the state of our heart, and it can lead us to see the people around us differently from what they really are, in John 3:25 John's disciples come to John with their remarks about Jesus, whom he had baptized, and how he was doing more baptisms than he was doing now, but John responds wisely, not letting these words change his attitude. Math 11:7-12 John had to introduce Jesus and had no glory to take from it, so Jesus declares that of all those born of women none is greater than John, yet in the kingdom of heaven he is the least, not that we are greater than John. Ephesians 5:5 presents us here with two kingdoms: the kingdom of heaven and the kingdom of God, the kingdom of heaven is smaller than the kingdom of God, the kingdom of heaven consists of the bridegroom who is Christ and the bride who is part of the Church of those who have been redeemed by Christ and who walk uprightly. The kingdom of God is therefore all those who once had faith in God, for example: Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph it began with the creation and introduction of man into the Garden of Eden and the kingdom of Christ began with Christ's resurrection from the dead and will end when the bride is taken from the earth.Things found in the kingdom of God are not necessarily in the kingdom of Christ, but what is part of the kingdom of Christ is in the kingdom of God. john himself makes the difference by saying that he is the friend of the bridegroom, for he is not part of that kingdom. The kingdom of heaven is the reign of all those who have confessed Jesus and who are to reign on earth because dominion has been handed over to Jesus.So we have two kingdoms for two types of message, so we must understand that we have authority from heaven to establish God's dominion on earth. Ephesians 5:31-32 PAUL speaks of marriage with reference to Christ and the Church. Matthew 19:12 a eunuch is someone who withholds marriage for a cause that may be the man himself, other men or for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The kingdom of heaven has requirements that if we can't meet it's good not to marry, marriage in the kingdom of heaven is a mystery that speaks of depths we need to know before committing ourselves otherwise it's going to create a lot of problems for us.The misunderstanding of marriage is the cause of the many difficulties couples face today: arguments, separations..... What we need to understand is that marriage has more requirements in the kingdom of Christ than in the kingdom of God, and if we can't meet them, it's better not to get married. Genesis 2:7-9 marriage is God's idea; it was never initiated by man.what we need to understand is that God is more interested in our marriage than we are Genesis 2:18,22-24.

• The purpose and reasons for marriage

The purpose of marriage: it's an institution of God and was established by Him to found society. That's why Satan's aim is to destroy marriages to bring about imbalance.The family is the nucleus of society, and if it is destroyed, so is society. The family is therefore there to provide a certain social balance: a man who loses his place in the family becomes a problem for the society to which he belongs.

The reasons for marriage : the only reason is to fulfill God's mission, so you can't say you want to get married if you don't know God's mission, vision or call for you: i will give him a helper to support him inthe purpose I have defined for him , so the man must not say that the woman will come to help him fulfill his vision as if she had none; Galatians3: 28 because all of us, both man and woman, have a mission to fulfill: we are all spirits and all members of the body of Christ capable of doing fully what the other can do. Having been created for a purpose, man should understand this so as not to dominate woman. Hence the only reason for marriage must be to support us in fulfilling our vision, just as we can choose to fulfill it alone like the apostle PAUL. It is two full people who come together to marry, not two people who seek to complement each other. This gives us the opportunity to have children who will not turn away from God, and to build a balanced family

• Secondary reasons for marriage

After understanding that we marry to fulfill God's purpose, project and mission, we need to understand that we marry secondarily for :

- Children: Psalm 68:6

-Companionship

- Preserve from fornication: this should enable us to understand that we can hold our bodies knowing the primary reason for marriage

Our commitment to marriage is determined by

1. Commitment to the thing of God (is he godly? and myself am I committed to the thing of God?)Luke16:10 marriage is a mystery determined by our commitment to the thing of the Father our devotion
2. Our attitude to God's plan (do we take care of God's house? His things?) Marriage is for mature Men speaking of spiritual maturity Exodus3:1-5
3. financial commitment to God's things (are we faithful in our offerings, our tithes?) otherwise we won't be able to manage the financial affairs of the house Isaiah21
4. Submission to authority: a woman or man who does not respect authority cannot respect his or her spouse
5. Provision of resources: both must be able to contribute to the couple's finances. If only one person is involved, this can become the object of blackmail
6. Financial dependence Proverb 31:15-16, do not become a burden on others
7. Parental dependence Genesis2:24 our parents must not influence our relationship
8. Marrying because of circumstances (health, age.....)
9. Doctrinal diversity heb13:7,17and Apo1:3 very important because we are together to accomplish a goal we must be able to have the same doctrine to advance otherwise one will suffocate the other
10. Place of residence: a man cannot marry if he does not live alone
11. Differences in age and education: don't marry someone who is too old or too young than you.we don't have the same interests it's a good idea for the woman to be younger than the man, or for them to be the same age the difference in education can lead to blackmail within the couple

Marriage is not built on love but on the word of God

I-) WHAT MARRIAGE IS NOT

• marriage is not an escape from suffering

An escape from suffering refers to considering marriage as security for oneself and one's family.

• marriage is not the search for companionship:
• marriage is not a means of social protection: the desire to bear one's spouse's name is not a reason to get married
• you don't get married to satisfy your sexual desires: just because you feel you're already a man or a woman doesn't mean you want to get married.
• we don't marry for slavery: a man who wants to marry, for example, so that his wife can bring up his children, or a woman who wants to marry so that her husband can sweep the house.

Because we don't marry for all these reasons, and because we marry for only one primary reason, which is to fulfill God's mission for us, marriage is a SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIP.

THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

The first relationship of marriage is spiritual, so when we want to get married, the first place to inform is the house of God (local church or ministry). For :

-marriage is not primarily for the family: it's not the parents who should be informed first.

-we talk to our leader to benefit from grace, for real support (1Timothy3:15).

- it's in the Church that we manifest God's life so that we can better deploy it in society.

-the church has more spiritual acuity than any one man. the church has an input into our marriage. If we don't discipline ourselves, our marriage won't work, because as we said above, we don't build relationships on love, but on the Word of God.

• GOOD AND BAD RELATIONSHIPS WHILE COMMITTED

There are two types of commitment

• courting (different from flirting): this is when a young man decides to approach a young girl to propose marriage. You don't suddenly get up and go see your sister, because when the sister has already said "yes", it's considered that you're already committed.so before doing so, he or she should take a good moment to observe.

QUESTION 1: Do these criteria also apply to women?

THE PROPHET'S ANSWER: YES, it applies to brothers as well as sisters

QUESTION2: On the subject of choice, how can we recognize that such and such a person is the one we're going to marry?

ANSWER: see the implications of our commitment above

QUESTION3: when do we talk about commitment: before or after the courtship?

ANSWER3: The commitment is after the courtship, but the courtship is already another type of commitment, not to the other person, but on a personal level.

• the engagement period and marriage: Deuteronomy 22:16-18

A-) THE RIGHT FOUNDATIONS

Here we'll talk about what a man needs to do before approaching a woman to court her

1-) Examine his convictions and motivations.

You need to ask yourself a number of questions

• what are my convictions based on?
• is it because of financial problems?
• is it because of parental problems?
• is it because of sexual problems?
• what are the other person's convictions?

This will enable us to :

-reassure ourselves if the sister wants to get married

- see if there is an intellectual or spiritual incompatibility: you can't marry someone who is intellectually lower than you are

2) Put all the cards on the table

proverbs3:3 Proverbs14:15 ,1 Kings 9-4

Why lay the cards on the table?

a-)to see the health aspect (to be reassured if the fiancée or fiancé has health problems)

b-) on the aspect of his or her past (to reassure oneself if the fiancé or fiancée has had children or a history etc......)

c-) the good and bad aspects of his or her personality

d-) Pray for the person and for yourself

Or, if you like it, pray for the person before asking for her hand in marriage

4-) You need to make financial adjustments, i.e. have a blocked account for the wedding.

If you want to propose to a sister, make sure you've set aside some money first, so you don't have to rely on others after you've made your commitment.

B-) THE WRONG FOUNDATIONS

1-) fornication

1Cor6:15-20, 1Co5:1-5: do not get together with your sister and have sexual relations or even caresses together, which are a form of fornication

2-don't get involved in compromising situations (being alone at a late hour)

3-)don't start buying things together. Do not give money, gifts

4-)Don't lie to each other. Make the other person think you like something when you don't like it at all

5-)Stop all intimate relationships with the opposite sex: this means stopping all friendships with the opposite sex. It may happen that at some point you want to go back on your commitment, but this will only be possible if the above conditions are met:

A-) HOW TO BREAK A COMMITMENT

There are two biblical reasons for breaking a commitment:

*) when one of the partners is not a child of God 2corinthians 6:14-1

*) when you started a relationship before becoming a child of God 2corinthians 5:17

B-) DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

We need to understand them in order to live better together

MEN	WOMEN
-They are generally objective-oriented	-they are method-oriented
-they think big	-they are detail-oriented
-They are analytical (they reason a lot)	-they are intuitive (they feel things)
-They are physically stronger	-they are more resistant
-They are perceived as stronger emotionally	-they are emotionally weak
-they are not very talkative	-they are very talkative

EPHESIANS 5:23,35

GALATES 5:25

In the world we meet two categories of men: introverts and extroverts. Introverts are much more centered on their own person and extroverts are open to the outside world.When we become children of God, we must make sure that we put on the fruit of the Spirit and manifest it, learning to let go of who we are in order to reach out to others

C-) THE ROLES

MEN	WOMEN
-Gives direction to the household	-Accompanies and listens to direction
-Provides leadership	-follow leadership
-makes sure everyone grows in the word	-creates the environment for others to grow
-He is the final authority in the home	-organizes household activities in an orderly fashion
-He provides the necessary finances for the household	-she is the financial complement
-He demonstrates God's wisdom and power	-brings suggestions related to the will of CHRIST
-It teaches the details of GOD's word	-It watches over and teaches the other going in the same direction as the man

B-) FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT

LUC 12:13-21, PROVERBS 1:28-33

Financial management begins with the individual before moving on to the couple. The way I behave towards money determines my commitment to the couple

*The levels of financial management

-make sure that at the beginning of each year you have given your first fruits

-be faithful in your tithes and offerings

-you must sow and give your offerings. LUC 6-38

* DEFENSIVE ITEMS

-consumables: what you spend on a daily basis (rent, cab, clothing, food)

-investments: for God's work, and concerning these matters

-savings

SUMMARY TABLE OF EXPENSES

PERIODS (MONTHS)	Consumables	Capital expenditure		Savings
		Investments in working life	Investments in God's house
January
February
March
.................